Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish.

I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling.  If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I’m changing, it usually means they have to change too.

They may resist this change, but I’m not here to make other people happy; I’m here to make myself happy.  If I don’t want to change my mind about a boundary I’ve set, I don’t have to.  Other people will have to learn to live with the “new me.”

I recognize this new attitude as a sign that I’m getting stronger every day.

Time to Break Free by Judith R. Smith ©1999