Grief is a very lonely thing.  Nobody teaches us how to do it properly.  So we just have to make up the rules as we go along … some days are OK, some are bad and sometimes they’re just awful.  But we learn to go on.  I’ve had to redefine “normal.”  Normal will never be the same.

Gloria Caldas, to her son’s fiancee, National Geographic, December, 2005, pg. 78